5 things women won’t tell you about sex (but you need to know
1) We can tell when you’re doing something because you saw it in a porno.
Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants in it, especially the women. In fact, many things that look good in porn can keep us from having fun in real-life sex. For instance, in porn the only parts of their bodies the actors often touch are their genitals, so that the camera can get a full view of the action. But in real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold and masturbatory.
Of course, we know that men know this, and most would deny that they’re doing stuff because it looked good in a porn and not because it felt good in the moment. So we’d rather not bring it up when you do stuff that looks better in porn than it feels in life. We don’t want to argue over whether or not that’s what you’re doing. But when you do something you picked up in a porn that doesn’t add to the real-life pleasure, we take notice and we’re often hoping you get it out of your system so we can move on to activities that are actually fun.
The Rule of the Nipple
Women have tits, and we like you to play with them, suck on them and maybe even tease them with your teeth. Our nipples are also often very sensitive, as are the areolae. No twisting, please —unless we ask for it.
Foreplay. Lots of Foreplay
We put as much emphasis on the appetizer as we do on the entrée. Let us luxuriate in physical attention all over our bodies, and we’ll lavish that attention back (that’s right, you gotta give it away to get it). So get exploring.
Worship of the Clit
Yes, please. A very large number of women do not get vaginal orgasms, no matter how rocking their men are, nor how hard they work. So a man who enthusiastically and expertly manipulates the clitoris will achieve the best of results. And for the men out there who can’t find it: Google Maps.
Just Use Her Boobs wisely
Begin by caressing and licking both of her breasts, not just her nipples. Alternate between each one as you use the flat of your tongue in lapping motions all around her breasts, covering every centimeter
Follow your tongue with light caressed using your fingertips, leaving her nipples until last.
When both breasts are suitably wet from your tongue, cup your hands over one breast at a time so that the tip of her nipple rests in between your thumb and your index finger. Squeeze these fingers together so that you raise her nipple slightly, and then begin licking it with the tip of your tongue in circular motions
I’ve got to interject the instruction for a moment. During this whole thing, you’ve got to be encouraging her without pressuring her. I know, I know. Fine lines. But seriously. Tell her how beautiful she is. Use pet names. She’s going to be very aroused. More aroused than she’s ever been. And it can be scary and overwhelming.
So be patient. And loving. And whisper sweet nothings all over that woman’s body. Tell her you love to make her cum, love the way she looks when it washes over her body. Tell her how hard it makes your cock. Say cock, not penis. Penis isn’t a sexy word. I can’t speak for anyone other than myself, but “good girl” does wonders for me when I’m in this state.
The point is, she’s going to need constant reassurance that this is what you want and that it’s turning you on. So give it.