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Let’s learn to make her squirt
My plan here is to give you some of the things you can do to potentially give your lady a squirting orgasm. However, please remember that nothing is fool-proof, and with squirting much of it relies on her being relaxed and not overthinking things. I know I said that for me talking about it at the start isn’t helpful but making sure (maybe a few days before) that she knows about female ejaculation, and how it feels to experience it.
Step #1: Make her feel at ease
I think many women haven’t squirted because when they get the pressure build-up (that feels very similar to the need to pee) they stop things as they think they need to go to the bathroom. We are so busy worrying about accidentally peeing ourselves during sex (or any other bodily function that might happen) that we can’t relax enough to really let go.
In reality that ‘need to pee’ feeling is the g-spotengorging and filling with fluid. Which is a good thing when you want to squirt. A good way to help prevent this worry (especially as you need to be well-hydrated for squirting to happen) is to make sure your lady goes to the bathroom before you start getting sexy. This will help alleviate the worry of accidents.
I’ve said a lot about the lady and how she needs to be relaxed. You want her to be in the moment; not thinking about what to make for dinner, or whether she can get that report for work finished by Monday, or if her stomach is sticking out. To do this you need to take some time to help her relax. One of the best ways to do this, if she’s okay with it, is a nice sexy massage.
I’m not talking about a pummeling heavy sports type massage, that is not going to work in this situation, you don’t want her to feel bruised. Take your time, long slow sensual strokes that get her nice and mellow, are what you’re looking to do. I find a nice scented massage oil is great, I love vanilla because I find it quite a soothing scent, but you might like something fresher and not as sweet. Again this is when knowing your partner well will come in handy.
Step #2: Foreplay is important!
Next up is foreplay. As I said earlier the first time I squirted we had been ‘playing around’ for at least an hour. Again you need to take your time; kiss her, kiss her neck, nibble, lick, suck her neck (if she likes that – I know some ladies don’t like their necks touching). Move to her breasts, gently squeeze, skim over her nipples, kiss her some more, lick and suck her nipples, play with them…kiss her again.
Remember the goal here isn’t to get to the finish line as quickly as possible. What you want is her melting, relaxed, and totally in the moment.
Step #3: Take your time
Stick with the neck, breasts and kissing until she is writhing. You’ll need to pick up on her body language; look for the unspoken signals that she is more than ready for you to move on. This could happen quickly, or take a while. But either way don’t rush, you need her to be ready for you to move further down her body.
Slowly kiss your way down her torso, if she has any sensitive spots that you know drive her wild, take some time working on them. I have an area just above my bikini line that is guaranteed to make me shiver, and catch my breath. Even just the lightest touch will cause a reaction (in a good way).
When you finally get to her cunt, you want to spend some time working on her clit. If you can give her a few clit orgasms first that will help even more with the relaxation. She should be good and wet by now but if she’s not (some women just don’t get wet for whatever reasons) add some good quality lube.
Start off with one finger, checking she’s okay and well relaxed. Then add a second finger, for me two fingers is enough but if she likes to feel fuller or more stretched you can add a third finger. You can thrust in and out for a little while still using your mouth on her clit some more.
Step #4: Work that g-spot!
The next step can vary in execution but is generally all about working the g-spot. First I’ll explain what works for me personally (and for other ladies I’ve spoken to), then I will tell you the other methods I have been told about. This is all about internal pressure; two fingers pushed in as far as they will go and then curled inwards slightly, so they are pressing forwards.
Once they are settled on the g-spot (this area will feel slightly rougher and more spongey than everything else) keep them in place and rock them, increasing speed and pressure until squirting orgasm occurs.
You can also thrust in and out with the fingers angled the same way as mentioned before, so you are repeatedly pressing against the g-spot. The key seems to be speed and pressure.
Another method that works well, especially if she is quite tight, is using a single finger to massage the g-spot in small circles.
Step #5: When she squirts…
When she squirts this can happen in a few ways, including:
sometimes around the fingers – running over them and out over your hand
sometimes you will feel the initial gush and when you remove the fingers the squirting will follow